5 Ways To Torture a Narcissist -

A narcissist wants you to believe that they are all-powerful and unstoppable. However, this is not the reality. The truth is they do have buttons that, when pressed, can evoke reactions and cause them to go crazy. Let’s talk about it on today’s article.

The following are five techniques to torture a narcissist for real.

1. Establish organization in your life.

Narcissists despise organized groups. We’re talking about a disorder here, so they’re dealing with internal instability, which is why they want their external environments to reflect that. They strive to cause as much chaos as possible, emotionally or otherwise. So, you must act in the opposite direction. You must organize your life. If they want you to believe that your life is supposed to be chaotic, stand up for yourself and get your act together. Get things in your hands, find that job you’ve been looking for, finish your degree, or simply organize your house. Prove them incorrect. They dislike stability; establish it and demonstrate to them that you will not accept or recreate the internal chaos that they want to exhibit in their surroundings.

When you construct this organization, it almost gives them a narcissistic injury that causes them to take a step back and realize that they can no longer control you because you have realized your true power—that your life is in your hands and they can’t control it. In fact, no one can.

2. Don’t take the bait when they act out.

Keep in mind that a narcissist is a developmentally delayed child trapped in the body of an adult. As a result, they have all the ability of an adult, yet their maturity is that of a child. This means they will be hostile, unreasonable, and project things, saying things that are absolutely unrealistic. This means you can’t take them or what they say seriously because it’s all made up and has no foundation. So, if kids start throwing tantrums or acting out, you must ignore them. Leave the room, take a shower, go for a stroll, or simply concentrate on your project. Utterly ignore them because ignorance undermines a narcissist’s ego.

If you successfully do it when they are acting out, when they want your reaction the most—when they want you to argue, when they want you to explain, when they want you to just get into the fight and basically wrestle with the pigs and get dirty—that is when you can give them the maximum injury by leaving the room, by clearly telling them that what they are saying and how they are behaving is completely unacceptable, and you are not going to play a part in it. That is how you build the perceptional barrier and plainly communicate that you are not going to take this BS from them.

3. Prevent manipulation and gaslighting.

Remember to deflect any attempts at manipulation or gaslighting. When they begin to tamper with your mind, with your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, hang on to your truth and say something like, “Your opinions are yours, and mine are mine. You are entitled to have it; my reality is not what you’re describing.” Simply say it and exit the room. That will also hurt the narcissist’s ego since they want you to respond to what they are saying. They expect you to take it personally. They want you to believe what they want you to believe because it gives them a sense of control, which makes them feel special and powerful. Having control over someone’s emotions, over someone’s psyche, gives them a high and a sense of self-importance that they lack otherwise.

So, when they try to gaslight you or manipulate you, notice what that provokes in you; what feelings you experience. Acknowledge them and clearly say no. Establish distance by just stating the difference right in front of them. Say it to them in person: “What you believe is not what my truth is, and you are entitled to believe what you want to believe. My truth is known to me, and that is what matters the most.”

4. Focus on rebuilding your life.

Focus on your life, on rebuilding it, on mending yourself, and on dragging yourself out of the darkness they have thrown you into, which they want you to stay in forever. Because becoming what they never want you to be, or becoming the best version of yourself, will be the most severe narcissistic hurt. Why? Because that would demonstrate to the narcissist that all of their techniques, all of their actions, are ineffective. They failed miserably because you showed them incorrect. They attempted to destroy you, but you picked up the pieces, rebuilt yourself, and became better than you were before meeting them or during the abusive cycle. So concentrate on repairing yourself and creating a life that others would envy.

Every moment you enjoy the life of your dreams or live a healed life is a torture moment for the narcissist. They can’t stand your growth or your achievement. They must watch you struggle, suffer, and be in pain. When you shatter it, when you walk outside of the bubble they have created for you and build your own life and reality, you will virtually murder the narcissist’s false ego.

5. Use their image against them.

You and I are both aware that a narcissist is exceedingly image-conscious. They want others to perceive them in a certain manner. If they act nice, sympathetic, or charming, or whatever traits they present to others, they will go to any length to maintain that image because they want to be accepted and receive that supply and validation. You may now corner them using their own image anxieties and the projection they wish to put out there. For example, if you are in a setting like a courtroom and they do not agree to the things you want them to agree to, you may use this image to persuade them to say yes to a few things you know they will agree to.

For example, you could persuade them to agree that they prioritize their children’s welfare over their own, or that they value their children’s needs over their own. Once you’ve gotten them to agree to a few things that will make them appear good in front of others, you can go ahead and submit that agreement, and the chances of them signing it are high since they need to defend their image in front of everyone. They must appear attractive and retain the picture of a caring, involved, devoted, compassionate, and loving parent. This is how you may use their image to torture them, and they will be powerless to resist because they are prisoners of their own actions; they are prisoners of their own personality qualities.