6 People Narcissists Hate The Most! -

Narcissism, a term derived from Greek mythology, has become a popular buzzword in today’s psychological landscape. It refers to a personality trait characterized by an excessive sense of self-importance, an insatiable need for admiration, and a lack of empathy towards others. While many people display narcissistic tendencies to some extent, those with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) take these traits to extreme levels, often causing distressing challenges in their relationships and interactions. That’s why they often engage in manipulative behaviors and exploit those around them to fulfill their own desires. They don’t know how to establish a genuine, reciprocal connection with others.

If you’ve ever felt like the narcissist in your life hates you, don’t take it personally. There are at least six people that the narcissist hates simply for existing in their world. So let’s go ahead and take a closer look, because this may explain a thing or two about how you were treated and also why it is not your fault.

Number 1: Someone Who is Authentically Themselves.

The first person a narcissist hates is someone who is authentically themselves. You may notice that in those moments when you are the truest version of you, that’s when the narcissist’s words will cut you down at your knees. From someone who’s been there, I can tell you it makes you feel like there’s something wrong with being you. So maybe they’ll make fun of you in these moments, or perhaps they’ll have harsh criticisms of you. But you’ll notice that it’s consistent: whenever you show up as you, they show up to cut you down. This may come through when you’re expressing yourself creatively or just being downright silly.

I have to be honest; there’s really nothing worse than hanging around someone who will act this way. People like this are what Brené Brown calls “blow-out-ers” because they just can’t wait to extinguish your flame. If you stick around long enough and give them enough power, they absolutely will succeed.

So, why do narcissists hate authenticity so much? It’s because narcissists build up a false sense of self to protect their fragile ego. Essentially, they’ve abandoned parts of themselves in an effort to feel safe and exist in this world. When they see you feeling free to be yourself, it can be like a subtle reminder of those abandoned parts, and that may trigger some bad feelings. Of course, you have no control over the parts of themselves that they see and the parts they abandon, and you don’t deserve to be a punching bag for any of it. But they will absolutely be jealous that you get to express yourself and they cannot. So when you see the narcissist cutting you or someone else down, essentially it’s like they’re saying, “What gives you the right to be yourself?”

Number 2: Narcissists Hate Sick People.

For the most part, there is an exception that we’ll get to in a little bit, but generally speaking, narcissists hate sick people. If you’ve been sick around a narcissist, you know exactly what I mean. I have an article about how the narcissist treats you when you’re sick. So what’s it like to be around a narcissist when you are sick? I know some of you know this all too well, and if that sounds like you, I invite you to stop reading now and tell us exactly what it’s like to be around a narcissist when you’re sick.

From my experience, I can tell you it’s not fun. Of course, being sick is never fun, but if you have to rely on a narcissist for basic care, you might be in big trouble. So what might they do? There are a lot of things they might do. They might question your illness and tell you that you’re lying or exaggerating your symptoms. They might outright ignore you or tell you you don’t deserve their help. Or they might one-up you and tell you that they’re sicker than you, which of course is always possible. But if it happens every single time, why then do narcissists hate sick people so much? It seems pretty cold, even for a narcissistic personality.

If you look at it this way: when you’re sick, you can’t serve a narcissist, and to them, serving them is your purpose. So you can’t live up to your end of the bargain. You see, narcissists look at everything transactionally, and when you can’t provide whatever service they need in the moment, you’re useless to them. Trust me, you’re going to feel it.

I mentioned two exceptions to this hatred earlier. The first is when the narcissist is in the love-bombing or hoovering phases of the relationship. In these moments, they’ll go above and beyond to make you feel cared for, because remember, it’s a transaction. They need you to get on board, or back on board, and they need you to adore them. For that service, for that transaction, they’re willing to sacrifice and put you first in that moment.

The second exception is what we call an altruistic narcissist. This is a narcissist who gets supply from helping others, and even though they may seem selfless, they have a hidden motive: they want to be seen as the savior. By helping others, they are making themselves look better, and trust me, they will not hesitate to brag about these selfless acts. This type of narcissist is definitely more difficult to spot and much better to have around when you’re sick. But if you get the sense that they’re using your pain to elevate themselves in some way, it’s definitely a red flag.

Number 3: Narcissists Hate Happy People.

If you’ve been around a narcissist, I know you felt this. There are tons of videos and articles out there about how narcissists like to ruin things like birthdays and holidays. Part of the reason for this is because the narcissist isn’t the center of attention in that moment, and the other part is they’re jealous of your joy. Narcissists hurt other people because they’re deeply unhappy. As they say, “hurt people hurt people.” So when you get a promotion at work or someone compliments you on your outfit choice, you might feel like you’re floating on a cloud, if only for the moment, until the narcissist knocks you right down. It’s kind of their favorite thing to do.

This is when you’re going to see venom and contempt come through when there’s really no reason for it. It’s confusing, isn’t it? It shouldn’t be; someone who loves you should be happy when you’re happy. That’s just not the case with a narcissist, and it’s exactly why your happiness is the best revenge. Because when you’re away from them, they can’t do anything to stop it.

Number 4: The Successful Person.

Have you ever noticed how a narcissist acts when someone else gets a promotion, wins an award, or buys a nice car? Really anything that shows someone’s accomplishing things and feeling good about it. In these moments around narcissists, usually you can expect that same old contempt and venom coming through. Even if they don’t outright show it, it’s written all over their face. If they do show it, you might encounter eye rolls, rude comments, or just an overall raincloud vibe.

The translation for all these behaviors and for the outright contempt is that the narcissist is silently saying, “What about me? I’m the one who matters here.” Anyone else’s success is straight-up threatening to a narcissist, which is exactly why after you move forward from them, going on to bigger and better things is the sweetest revenge. You remind the narcissist that they aren’t as special as they thought, because even if a narcissist does accomplish things, they like to think that they’re the only ones who deserve praise.

This is another case where you will find the greatest success after you leave a narcissist in the rearview mirror, and it’s also the best revenge.

Number 5: The Truth Teller.

Another person that a narcissist can’t stand, and I mean truly despises, is the truth teller. If you’re the truth teller of your family or group, you know exactly what I mean. Truth tellers will call out bad behavior regardless of who it’s done to. These are the last people you’ll see as flying monkeys for the narcissist. They aren’t the ones who will be doing the narcissist’s dirty work; I can pretty well guarantee that. Quite the contrary, they’re the ones trying to clean it up with a healthy dose of truth.

It’s pretty obvious why a narcissist would despise this person. Truth tellers make it difficult for narcissists to manipulate, abuse, and exploit others. So what does a narcissist do around a truth teller? They might avoid or alienate them, but this can sometimes be difficult to do, especially in family dynamics. If they can’t avoid or alienate, they’ll do everything they can to discredit this person. Maybe they’ll make fun of them, insult their intelligence, and maybe even claim that their motives are impure. This is exactly how truth tellers so often become scapegoats and the black sheep.

Unfortunately, if you can relate to this and you feel like you’re the truth teller, keep being you. But I would also strongly caution you to let go of any expectations that people are going to change. People will only ever change when they’re ready, and that’s usually when the pain of staying in the same place is greater than the fear of change itself. So keep standing up for yourself and also try to learn to love people for who they are and where they are, or to let them go—whichever seems like the healthier option for you. But expecting them to be something they’re not probably isn’t the healthiest option.

Number 6: Narcissists Hate Highly Empathetic People.

If you ask a narcissist, they’ll tell you that they hate empathetic people because they’re weak, and they truly believe this. They believe that empathy is something to be exploited. But the two things—empathy and weakness—aren’t the same. Here’s where the narcissist might get a little bit confused: someone who’s highly empathetic and lacks good boundaries is going to have a lot of vulnerabilities that the narcissist will see as a weakness to exploit.

So if you are highly empathetic, take this as your sign to check your boundaries, especially if you’ve been hurt by a narcissist. I want to be clear: I’m not saying that the only way a narcissist can hurt you is if your boundaries are weak. And if a narcissist did hurt you, it’s certainly not your fault. But I am saying it’s much easier for them to hurt you when your boundaries are weak.

Try to take an honest look at where you are right now and see if you need to secure those boundaries. Now, let’s take this a little deeper than surface level and talk about why the narcissist really hates empathetic people. The reason is similar to why they hate happy people: you have something the narcissist will never have—not to any meaningful degree. Narcissists lack empathy, and when I say empathy, I mean emotional or affective empathy. This is the type of empathy they see as a weakness because it’s the type of empathy that allows you to feel deep, meaningful connections.

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