5 Code Words Narcissists Use: What They Really Mean -

Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with a narcissist and felt like you were speaking a different language? Well, in a way, you actually are. That’s because they have their own set of code words they use. But little did you know that they’re actually using them to manipulate, control, and deceive you. And in this video, we’ll reveal the top code words used by narcissists and what they really mean.

Before that, let’s dive into the world of narcissism. Chances are we know someone who fits the definition of a narcissist. We’re talking about someone who’s arrogant, entitled, and always thinks that they’re right. And as you talk to them, you’ll notice that they seem to have a different way of speaking, like they’re speaking in code.

What most people don’t realize is that narcissists use specific code words to gaslight their victims and maintain their power. So now, let’s break down these five sets of code words.

Number 1: “It’s for your good.”

This behavior is a sneaky way for someone to justify their actions or control you while pretending to be helpful. Covert narcissists use this tactic a lot, often saying things like, “I’m just worried about you.” But the truth is, they’re hiding their real intentions. They act like they care about you and want what’s best for you, but it’s really just a trick to bring you down.

Whether they’re openly critical or subtly putting you down, their words reveal their true nature. They aim to make you feel small while pretending to be kind and concerned. For example, imagine you’re wearing a dress that everyone compliments, and you ask a narcissist for their opinion. Don’t be surprised if they say something like, “That dress? It doesn’t really suit you. Are you sure you want to wear that?” Their goal is to shake your confidence.

And it’s not just about clothes. Let’s say you’re excited to spend time with your friends. A narcissist might try to discourage you by saying, “Those friends? They’re not really good for you.” Most of the time, that’s not true—they just want to isolate you. Or maybe you’re thrilled about a new career path. A narcissist might try to dampen your enthusiasm by saying it’s not realistic. It’s not because your goals are impossible—it’s because they enjoy seeing you less passionate and confident about your dreams.

Number 2: “That’s not what I meant.”

The narcissist didn’t mean for their words to come across that way? Or maybe you just misunderstood? Actually, no. This is often an excuse to avoid taking responsibility, which narcissists are great at. They use phrases like this to make it seem like you’re wrong and to shift the blame onto you.

For example, if your narcissistic partner criticizes your job and then says, “I didn’t mean it like that,” they’re dismissing your feelings and making you feel like you’re overreacting. Or if a narcissistic coworker takes credit for your work and says, “I didn’t mean it like that. I thought we were a team,” they’re trying to make you feel like you’re blowing things out of proportion. It’s all about ignoring your feelings and dodging accountability.

Number 3: “No one else thinks that way. It’s just you.”

When someone says, “Nobody else thinks that,” it’s a really narcissistic thing to say. By saying things like, “Everyone else thinks this, and nobody else thinks that,” they’re trying to make you feel small and isolated. Their goal is to make you believe they’re the only one who understands or cares about you, so you become overly dependent on them in an unhealthy way. It’s also a way to dismiss your feelings and experiences, making it seem like they don’t matter at all.

When a narcissist tells you that you’re the only one who feels or thinks a certain way, they’re trying to make you believe your feelings aren’t valid. This is a form of gaslighting. It’s a sneaky tactic meant to make you question your thoughts, your experiences, and even your sanity. For example, if you’re feeling worried about being bullied at work, they might say, “You’re the only one who feels like that.” But here’s the truth: you’re not alone in how you feel. The narcissist says things like this to confuse you and gain control over you.

Number 4: “I’m just kidding.”

Narcissists often use humor as a way to avoid taking responsibility for their actions. They’ll say or do something hurtful, and if it causes a problem, they’ll quickly say, “I was just joking!” Suddenly, if you’re upset, it’s your fault for not being able to take a joke, not theirs for being hurtful. It’s a sneaky way to avoid blame and stop you from pointing out their bad behavior.

Here’s an example: A narcissist might make a joke about someone’s appearance, like teasing them about needing to diet, especially in front of others. It’s embarrassing and hurtful, especially if that person is struggling with something serious like an eating disorder. Making comments about sensitive topics like weight can cause deep emotional pain. But instead of owning up to the harm they’ve caused, the narcissist dismisses it as “just a joke.” This only adds to the hurt because it invalidates the person’s feelings. Narcissists don’t care about the damage they cause; they care about impressing others and getting a laugh at someone else’s expense. And if someone gets upset, the narcissist simply blames them for not having a sense of humor.

Number 5: “You’re just being too sensitive.”

Narcissists love using the phrase, “You’re just too sensitive,” because it’s a sneaky way to manipulate you. By saying this, they’re trying to make you question your own feelings and reactions, making it seem like you’re the problem instead of addressing what they actually said or did. Sometimes, they’re so subtle about it that you might not even realize what’s happening.

For example, they might say something really mean and then add a quick “Ha!” at the end, making it sound like a joke. At first, you might think they’re just kidding, but they’re actually testing you to see how much they can get away with. If you call them out on it, they’ll turn it around on you, saying you misunderstood or overreacted because you’re “too sensitive.” It’s all about shifting the blame onto you so they can avoid taking responsibility for their behavior.